Easier way to pay

All clients coming to regular ongoing sessions with counsellors at venues away from our Bedford town centre counselling rooms now make their payments more easily and securely using an online service.

Many clients choose to see a counsellor at a community centre or other venue around the county, sometimes nearer their home, rather than travel to our Bedford town centre rooms in St Paul’s Square. (more…)

Helping you help your children

For the past few months we have been running FREE one-day workshops for parents who are separating – aimed at helping them to help their children through this difficult time.

We’re now towards the end of the programme and the final workshop will be held on Friday 23rd June in Bedford.


The day covers topics such as:

  • The practicalities of co-parenting
  • Looking at the separation from the child’s point of view
  • How to protect the children from conflict
  • Improving child/parent relationships.

Any parent can attend the course. You can attend by yourself or as a couple. To find out more or book your place please contact our Education and Learning team on 01234 342503 or email us.

Building confidence and skills

Thanks to funding from Lloyds Bank Foundation we are working with King’s Arms Project, Bedford, on another training programme in May to support people living in the project’s temporary accommodation.

Our joint aim is to enable participants take control of their lives by securing permanent accommodation and having the confidence and skills to seek employment and/or training.

We do this through workshops focusing on communication, managing stress, time management and dealing with conflict.

King’s Arms Project provide the venue and make referrals into the programme.

Comments from previous learners have included: “It helped me gain more confidence and self-esteem” and “ Good overall construction of the course, good delivery.”


So… you’re thinking about a trial separation?

Sometimes, when it feels like you’ve exhausted all of your options and aren’t sure where to turn, maybe it’s time to take a step back and get some perspective.

In relationships, it’s at times like this that we might suggest a trial separation.

People have lots of ideas about trial separations. It’s common to worry that they’re simply a step towards breaking up, or that they won’t actually make anything better.

While this is totally understandable, trial separations can be a good way to take some time to really think about your relationship and begin to understand why you’ve been having difficulties.

How can a trial separation help? (more…)

Do you feel too close?

When we think of ‘closeness’ in relationships, we often think of it as a good thing.

As long as we’re both happy with how close we are together – no problem.

But when one partner starts to feel suffocated by the other’s affections, or you start to feel you’re being rejected by the other wanting more space, conflict can develop.

Relationship circles (more…)

We offer free help to someone you probably know

During next month we’ll be promoting our free service in support of Dementia Awareness Week.

Most of us know someone living with dementia. The disease affects one in three people over the age of 65 nationwide as well as about 40,000 people who are younger. Early last year Bedford Borough and Central Bedfordshire Council estimated that 5,000 people with dementia live in their local authority areas. Most have mild or moderate dementia while about 12% have severe dementia. More than three-quarters of people with dementia live in the community.

So the chances are you also know of relatives and friends looking after people with dementia. “They care for their loved ones with dementia but frequently don’t think of themselves as ‘carers’,” says Diane Whitmore, from Relate Bedfordshire and Luton. “Often they look after their partner over many years as the condition degenerates. It’s an expression of their love, even when their partner becomes almost unrecognisable from the person they once knew.”

Earlier this year the Relate team secured funding from three local family trusts to offer free counselling for people supporting loved ones with dementia in Bedfordshire. (more…)

Relationships and anxiety and OCD

Relationships and anxiety and OCD
Problems with anxiety or obsessive thinking can put a lot of pressure on a relationship.

If you have anxiety or obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), it can be very isolating. You may have trouble explaining to your partner how it affects you – or you might avoid talking about it at all.

It can be upsetting for your partner too. They may feel stressed or upset by seeing you suffer, or feel frustrated by their inability to help.

What does anxiety and OCD mean?
The symptoms of both anxiety and OCD are varied, and can range from mild to severe. But generally speaking: (more…)

Worried about your partner’s drinking?

Feeling like your partner drinks too much can create a lot of tension and upset in a relationship.

You may feel your partner is ‘being taken away from you’. Perhaps you resent the amount of time he or she spends out drinking and feel they’re a different person when they get home.

Perhaps you’re unsure how to broach the topic – or maybe you have and the outcome isn’t what you’d hoped for.  Maybe your partner has accused you of nagging, or disagreed that there’s a problem at all.

For many couples, this type of issue can bubble beneath the surface for years before becoming a real point of contention.

What can I do? (more…)

Once a cheat, always a cheat?

When someone’s been unfaithful, the saying ‘once a cheat, always a cheat’ often rears its ugly head. But is there any truth to it?

A study published in the journal Nature has uncovered that people who have cheated on a partner once may be likely to cheat again, as each time a person lies, the amount of guilt they feel decreases.

The scientists from University College London suggested this reduction in ‘emotional response’ can lead to people becoming serial cheats.

“The findings uncover a biological mechanism that supports a ‘slippery slope’: what begins as small acts of dishonesty can escalate into larger transgressions,” they said.

To test the impact lying has on our brain, scientists goaded participants into lying in order to win a cash prize. (more…)

Donation received

What a nice surprise this week, when a lovely young lady visited our office and presented us with a donation!

This young lady had seen one of our young people counsellors over a number of weeks and wanted to thank us, so she set about making some beautiful gifts and selling them at school.  Her amazing hard work achieved a huge £89!

As a Charity, donations like this make a real difference and help our highly skilled counsellors’ provide expert support to more young people like this inspirational young lady.

Thank you