When you feel you’ve lost everything…

There’s more than one type of love.

Most of us know of someone who has lost love due to death.

Some of us will feel we’ve lost love at the end of a long relationship – when it’s too late to turn back the hands of time to fix.

Many of us will have loved and had our love rejected.

Then there’s love for children, or pets, or a favourite place… (more…)

When we’re our own worst enemies

Some couples set themselves on a route to relationship break-up – by repeating the same old bad habits time and again.

Here are some of them:

Not listening to what is being said

Communication is the most important part of a relationship. By paying closer attention to how you’re communicating with your partner you can help stop small disagreements turning into bigger problems. (more…)

What you can do if your partner is drinking too much

Feeling your partner drinks too much can create tension and upset in your relationship.

You may feel your partner is ‘being taken away from you’. Perhaps you resent the amount of time they spend out drinking – and feel they’re a completely different person when they’ve been drinking.

Maybe you’re unsure how to broach the topic – or maybe you have, and it’s not gone how you would like. Maybe they’ve accused you of nagging, or they’ve disagreed that there’s a problem at all.

For many couples, this type of issue can bubble beneath the surface for years before becoming a big point of contention.

What can I do?  (more…)

Money: what’s your emotional relationship with it?

Some people are very careful about money – unwilling to spend on anything unless they absolutely have to and squirrelling away the rest.

Some people love to spend money, and will happily spend every last penny – even when they know they should slow down and keep some in reserve.

Most of us are somewhere in the middle, occasionally spending lots or treating ourselves, sometimes saving.

How do we develop these different relationships with money? (more…)

HOW WE SHOULD THINK about mental health at work

‘The correct way to view mental health is that we all have it and we fluctuate between thriving, struggling and being ill and possibly off work. People with poor mental health including common mental health problems and severe mental illness can be in any of these groups. An individual can have a serious mental health problem but – with the right support – can still be thriving at work.’ – the Government’s Thriving at Work report. Check out how Relate can help in the workplace here.

Read:

The Facts on Mental Health at Work

The Vision on Mental Health at Work

 

THE VISION on mental health at work for all employers

In 10 years’ time all companies, whatever their size, will be:

  • Equipped with awareness and tools to not only address but prevent mental ill-health caused or worsened by work.
  • Equipped to support individuals with a mental health condition to thrive.
  • Aware of how to get access to timely help to reduce sickness absence caused by mental ill-health.

That’s the vision of a Government Thriving at Work report aimed at dramatically reducing the proportion of people with a long-term mental health condition who leave employment each year.

Check out how Relate can help in the workplace here.

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The Facts on Mental Health at Work

How We Should Think about Mental Health at Work

THE FACTS on mental health at work

  • More people than ever before are at work with mental health conditions. 15% have symptoms of an existing mental health condition.
  • 300,000 employees with a long-term mental health problem lose their jobs each year – it’s a much higher rate than for those with physical health conditions.
  • The annual cost to employers is between £33 billion and £42 billion.
  • More than half of the cost comes from ‘presenteeism’ – when individuals are less productive because of poor mental health in work plus extra costs from sickness absence and staff turnover.
  • The cost of poor mental health to Government is between £24 billion and £27 billion. This includes costs in providing benefits, falls in tax revenue and costs to the NHS.
  • The cost of poor mental health to the economy as a whole from lost output is between £74 billion and £99 billion per year.

Facts are from the Government’s Thriving at Work report. Check out how Relate can help in the workplace here.

Read:

The Vision on Mental Health at Work

How We Should Think about Mental Health at Work

 

Sex after babies

After giving birth, when it hurts just to go to the toilet, the thought of having to resume love-making can be worrying.

Sex postpartum isn’t something that most women, or men, talk about openly – but it can be a major concern.

As well as fears over pain, new parents find themselves exhausted with looking after the baby, adjusting to their new roles, and uncertain about how to start a conversation about sex with their partner. (more…)

Staying friends brings benefits

You’re about to have that awkward conversation with your partner – that you want to break up. But should you suggest ‘remaining ‘friends’? Or cut them out of your life completely?

Relate relationship counsellor Gurpreet Singh has been talking with HuffPost Online about the benefits of remaining friends.

It can help you bring good energy into your next relationship

“History, sadly, has a way of repeating itself,” says Singh. “If you have unresolved issues from a past relationship it’s likely you will carry them forward.” By forcing a resolution with your ex-partner, and parting more amicably, you are likely to go into your next relationship with a more positive mental outlook. (more…)