Posts Categorized: Relationships

How To Decide Who To Spend Christmas With And Avoid Family Rows

As the Christmas lights go up and the heart-warming festive TV adverts appear, anyone who hasn’t confirmed how they are spending Christmas this year may be feeling under pressure to commit.  Who to spend Christmas with sounds like such a simple question but it can actually be rather complicated and cause a lot of stress… Read more »

Family Consultants Work In The ‘Grey Area’

Our clinical supervisor Diane Whitmore is adding another string to her bow – this time training to take on the role of ‘family consultant’ to a local ‘pod’ of collaborative lawyers – so-called because they get clients to collaborate over settling issues such as divorce rather than going to court. Using all the skills of… Read more »

How to stop arguments spinning out of control

Have you noticed that arguments with your partner often blow up before getting resolved? Do disagreements easily pass the point of no return? Do you sometimes both say things you’ll regret later before one of you storms out? Many couples bring this destructive pattern of conflict to counselling, and we’ve witnessed how hurt and exhausted… Read more »

10 tips for a happy relationship

Talk constructively How you say things is as important as what you’re saying. If you and your partner are having a disagreement, don’t just attack them or go all-out criticising. Why not try using ‘I’ statements? By saying ‘I feel’ rather than ‘You always…’ you’re taking responsibility for your emotions and your partner won’t feel… Read more »

Tips for dating

Be positive – Make sure you’re in a good place and feeling fulfilled first before you try and get into a new relationship. Looking to another person to make you happy will not last and is likely to create unwanted pressures and resentments down the line. Keep your friends close – Develop and maintain a strong network… Read more »