Posts Categorized: Relationships

Forgiveness: it’s the hardest thing to do

Forgiving your partner if they’ve done something to upset you can be one of the hardest things to do in a relationship. When you’re feeling disappointed, angry or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a little bit like giving in – as if, by letting go of your resentment, you’re allowing them to… Read more »

Alternatives to ‘ghosting’

Social media has brought a whole new range of opportunities and insecurities to relationships. On the ‘down side’, those who date and have grown up with social media face the likes of ‘ghosting’. For those lucky enough to not have experienced it, ‘ghosting’ is when someone you’ve been seeing suddenly cuts off all contact, seemingly… Read more »

How to argue less

Arguments are common in all kinds of relationships. Some degree of conflict can even be healthy, as it means both people are expressing themselves, rather than keeping everything inside and letting emotions fester. But if you’re arguing all the time, or simple disagreements end up in a hostile silence or screaming match, it can really… Read more »

Dating: the pleasures and pitfalls

Dating can be a great way of meeting and getting to know a potential partner. Online dating has made it possible to meet more new people than ever – and more easily too. And while that’s allowed us to have more control over the types of people we meet, and to think in more detail… Read more »

Breaking up is hard to do

You’ve decided to put an end to all the arguing, all the tension, all the indecision – and tell your partner: ‘It’s over.’ All you’ve got to do is actually do it! It sounds straightforward enough. But it’s not always easy. Maybe you’re worried about hurting your partner. Perhaps you know they don’t want to break… Read more »

Blame can be toxic

When you’re on the receiving end of blame it can be exhausting, exasperating and painful. It can make you feel tiny: like nothing you do is good enough or ever will be. It can break down your sense of trust in your partner and replace it with a growing sense of resentment and anger. And,… Read more »

When talking is tough

Talking things over together in a relationship can be tricky – particularly if you haven’t been talking properly for a while, or you feel hurt or angry with your partner. However, if you do feel able to give it a go, these tips may be useful: Keep things relaxed. Hearing the words ‘we need to talk’… Read more »

Should we break up now? Or risk further heartache down the line?

Relate frequently responds to letters from people about their relationships – and a few are published on our national website to help others who may be going through similar experiences. We ensure letter-writers cannot be identified. Here’s one such letter from someone whose partner has asked him: ‘Should we remain in our relationship?’ He writes:… Read more »

Anyone for sex every day for a year?

The media frequently contact Relate for comments and advice. Sometimes the stories they impart are a touch sensational and the advice is added on as an afterthought. So, when you’re asked to comment on a piece headed ‘Sex every day for a year’ you start to question whether you should get involved. But when one… Read more »