Posts By: Peter Law

D-Day for help with divorce

Today has been dubbed D-Day (with apologies to those with wartime memories). D-Day is the date in January when more divorces are expected to be filed than any other day of the year. Christmas has come and gone. You’ve given it one last chance. You didn’t want to spoil Christmas for the children. But after… Read more »

Surely your luck will change in 2016

This new year maybe, just maybe… your luck will change. Each new year, hundreds, no thousands, probably millions of people ask themselves: ‘Why haven’t I been asked out?’ It’s not just you, we promise. The Office for National Statistics calculates that 51% of the UK population are single (although their definition of ‘single’ is ‘not married’).

When does it get serious?

When you’re dating someone, it’s pretty obvious. You go out together, hang out at weekends, and probably do other stuff, too. But figuring out whether you’re just dating or in a serious relationship can be a grey area. For some, you’re serious after three months of consistent dating; for others, it’s not until after you… Read more »

New beginnings

People of a certain age don’t always readily admit to using Relate’s counselling services. Chat with younger people and there’s nothing odd about finding someone to talk with in confidence. Their mates do it; they do it. So it was a bit surprising when a lady of more advanced years came up at a public… Read more »

Good communication better than pills?

In a week when we were told that talking therapies are just as effective as antidepressants, the comparative benefits of a new pill for low libido in women have also been brought into question. Popularly described as Viagra for women, Flibanserin is taken daily and aims to treat low desire, but has potential side-effects such… Read more »

Should you be worried if your teenage son is watching porn?

People have different responses to porn. Whether they think about it from a moral, ethical or even legal point of view, often no two people have the same opinion. One of our Relate counsellors says that clients’ sexual issues frequently, to a greater or lesser extent, involve problems with attitudes towards using porn. Some see… Read more »

How much sex you need for a happy relationship?

According to a study in the journal  Social Psychological and Personality Science, the magic number is once a week. The study used data on sexual frequency and happiness from more than 30,000 Americans who completed a social survey between 1989 and 2012. It found that couples were happier if they had more sex, but that more than once… Read more »

‘Don’t stay together for our sake’

Eight out of 10 children and young people with experience of parental separation or divorce would prefer their parents to split up if they are unhappy, rather than stay together. So says a poll of young people aged 14-22 with experience of parental separation, carried out on behalf of family law organisation Resolution. It reveals fresh… Read more »

New ways of doing Christmas

Whom to spend Christmas with torments so many of us year on year. A Relate survey shows that 90% of us would like to spend Christmas with immediate family. Only 54% think that including extended family members is a priority. It gets more complicated when family members have different ideas about who these important ‘nearest… Read more »