Posts By: Peter Law

Blame can be toxic

When you’re on the receiving end of blame it can be exhausting, exasperating and painful. It can make you feel tiny: like nothing you do is good enough or ever will be. It can break down your sense of trust in your partner and replace it with a growing sense of resentment and anger. And,… Read more »

‘Children learn positive lessons when parents explain how they resolve arguments’

Most parents argue. But the way these disagreements affect children varies greatly, according to research commissioned by the BBC. It’s not only the relationship between parent and child that affects children’s long-term development. How parents get on with each other also plays a big role in a child’s wellbeing, with the potential to affect everything… Read more »

Are you having doubts?

Doubts about getting married are fairly common. You may be worrying that you and your partner aren’t compatible enough. Perhaps there are parts of your relationship that don’t work so well – and you think they could become more of a problem further down the line. Maybe you’ve got the feeling there could be someone… Read more »

Be kind to yourself

We all have a relationship with ourselves, just as we have relationships with the other people around us. We all tend to think of ourselves in a certain way, and might have patterns of behaviour when ‘interacting’ with ourselves. When someone says they ‘don’t like’ themselves, what they’re often describing is having a poor relationship… Read more »

When talking is tough

Talking things over together in a relationship can be tricky – particularly if you haven’t been talking properly for a while, or you feel hurt or angry with your partner. However, if you do feel able to give it a go, these tips may be useful: Keep things relaxed. Hearing the words ‘we need to talk’… Read more »

Should we break up now? Or risk further heartache down the line?

Relate frequently responds to letters from people about their relationships – and a few are published on our national website to help others who may be going through similar experiences. We ensure letter-writers cannot be identified. Here’s one such letter from someone whose partner has asked him: ‘Should we remain in our relationship?’ He writes:… Read more »

Anyone for sex every day for a year?

The media frequently contact Relate for comments and advice. Sometimes the stories they impart are a touch sensational and the advice is added on as an afterthought. So, when you’re asked to comment on a piece headed ‘Sex every day for a year’ you start to question whether you should get involved. But when one… Read more »

When sex isn’t working out ok

Feeling like you aren’t getting what you want in bed and being unable to ask for it can be frustrating and upsetting. Sex can be a really a tricky topic. We may feel we don’t know how to express ourselves to our partner. Or we may feel confused or embarrassed about why things aren’t ‘working’…. Read more »