Posts By: Peter Law

How to argue less

Arguments are common in all kinds of relationships. Some degree of conflict can even be healthy, as it means both people are expressing themselves, rather than keeping everything inside and letting emotions fester. But if you’re arguing all the time, or simple disagreements end up in a hostile silence or screaming match, it can really… Read more »

Dating: the pleasures and pitfalls

Dating can be a great way of meeting and getting to know a potential partner. Online dating has made it possible to meet more new people than ever – and more easily too. And while that’s allowed us to have more control over the types of people we meet, and to think in more detail… Read more »

When your ex is badmouthing you to your children

Your ex badmouthing you to your children is a situation faced by lots of ex-partners. It may make you angry and rekindle all sorts of emotions left over from your relationship. The fact that the badmouthing is being directed at you via your children may make you fear they’ll be turned against you. You may… Read more »

Coping with the ‘snowball of stress’

Stress can have a distorting effect on our relationships. It can make us feel low and not wanting to talk to people. We tend to shut ourselves away and keep our emotions on the inside. It can make us argumentative and prone to lashing out – ready to lose our temper in an instant. Or,… Read more »

Breaking up is hard to do

You’ve decided to put an end to all the arguing, all the tension, all the indecision – and tell your partner: ‘It’s over.’ All you’ve got to do is actually do it! It sounds straightforward enough. But it’s not always easy. Maybe you’re worried about hurting your partner. Perhaps you know they don’t want to break… Read more »

Gone off sex?

It’s common for a relationship to go through phases where one or both partners lose interest in sex. Sexual interest tends to ebb and flow over time – and partners may have different sex drives at different stages in a relationship. Losing interest can also be related to specific issues in the relationship, or external… Read more »

Blame can be toxic

When you’re on the receiving end of blame it can be exhausting, exasperating and painful. It can make you feel tiny: like nothing you do is good enough or ever will be. It can break down your sense of trust in your partner and replace it with a growing sense of resentment and anger. And,… Read more »